Tel :01691 682 124


Email :counsellor@fsmail.net


Located midway between Shrewsbury. Welshpool. Oswestry.


Our philosophy for helping you

Healing starts with the relationship people have with their counsellor We believe it to be each person's right to be valued for their mind, body and spirit; entitled to respect, freedom, choice and happiness; free to grow, as an individual and to relate with others as equals.

Our philosophy in offering help and counselling begins with choice.

You choose to consult with a counsellor who will treat you and your concerns with absolute discretion.
You choose how to start to make sense of your concerns.
You choose which areas of your life you wish to explore.
You choose to take charge in areas of your life where you feel you have not previously been given a choice.
You choose to stop accepting the problems in your life, and to this end to be counselled.
You choose power over hurting.
You choose no longer to be judged.
You can choose to be assertive, not angry; no longer to have your legitimate needs described by others as unreasonable demands.
You may choose to describe your concerns as problems or issues; your hurts as feelings or emotions. And for you, feeling better may be a cure, a relief, a solution or just having someone else to understand.
You may choose to see change as a challenge not a threat.

You choose which mode of counselling is easiest and most convenient :-
Telephone counselling.
Email counselling
Computer/ Internet/ On-line/ Virtual/ Web Counselling
Postal Counselling.
Face to Face in our (North West Shropshire, UK) Consulting Rooms
A Combination of these services to Meet Your Needs.
One-off sessions.
Short-term therapy. (up to six sessions and then review)
Ongoing therapy
- for deep seated problems, and ongoing beneficial life support.

Next we offer Safety.

This begins with us dealing with your concerns with absolute discretion. Which ever way you choose to consult us we aim to provide a 'safe space' in which we can work together. We can protect your privacy with by using a password of your choice before using or replying to phone, email or postal messages, and we use encryption of internet messages. Face to Face counselling is in our private counselling rooms set in isolated rural surroundings where your anonymity is protected, or, in some cases, we are able to travel to see clients within the area. Our concept of providing a 'safe place' includes helping to contain the hurt and extreme emotion you need to share while you explore and deal with your concerns.

We aim to be transparent in how we work. You need to know that while we offer privacy and absolute discretion in our dealings with you, unlike the position with priests and doctors, the law requires that counsellors can provide only a qualified confidentiality. This is for the safety of yourself and others around you. For details go to terms and conditions; confidentiality statement; and to your needs and safety so that you can ensure that you understand and accept the limits under which we work.

Our Integrative Approach

The counselling service we provide uses an integrative approach. That is we do not slavishly follow just one modality, applying a one-size fits all approach. Rather, our approach and work is informed by several schools of thought and theory, and is very much guided by the client's needs and preferences as the work progresses. Experience has taught us that clients may have already tried some forms of counselling and have rejected them as being inappropriate or unhelpful for their concerns, or they may have found that they even made matters worse.

In offering integrative counselling to help you we may employ several proven counselling models. (The originators of the theories behind the therapy are shown in brackets. By entering the theory and its originators you will obtain a full description from the internet.)

A Person Centred counselling model provides a context where our relationship is built on you trusting and having faith in the counsellor, the counselling methods and the safety of the counselling context; and for the counsellor holding unconditional positive regard for you as a person, not just a client; and empathy and understanding of how seriously your concerns are affecting your happiness and wellbeing. (Person Centred Counselling - Carl Rogers)

Where a client's concerns seem to be rooted in their family of origin and experiences from early childhood, a Psychodynamic approach (developed from the original psychoanalytic ideas of Freud) may seem appropriate to help a client to a better understanding of their present feelings. However this is not for everyone as the pain of revisiting old wounds will not always be helpful, particularly where short-term therapy prevents a full and proper investigation. (Psychoanalysis - Sigmund Freud)

One particular relationship is known to have a lasting effect on the development of the individual, both for better and worse. That is the relationship between the child and the mother (parent or significant other as primary carer) during the first few years of life. Attachment Theory provides a way of understanding how this early relationship, which may leave a person in the present still struggling with unmet needs from the past, may continue to cause hurt and pain in the here and now, and with their current adult relationships. (Attachment Theory - John Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth)

All kinds of family relationships, social and work relationships, and couple relationships respond well to Systemic practice. An understanding that the concerns experienced by one or more members of a relationship system may be as a result of the working of the system itself rather than one person being a problem individual opens the way to working with the system. Overlapping systems and their demands (e.g. work, family, society, spiritual.) may produce conflicting behaviour, and relief may involve changes for individuals in several different spheres of their life. (Systemic theory and Family practice Gregory Bateson, 'The Milan Group' Mara Selvin Palazzoli. John Weakland, Don Jackson, Jay Haley,etc.)

A very useful way of viewing and understanding relationships is through Transactional Analysis. Our lives are a continuing set of transactions with various different others, transactions to which we bring both conscious and unconscious ways of behaving and thinking. The way in which one person behaves may leave the other with no option but to behave in a complementary fashion even when this is uncomfortable and potentially damaging to the relationship. Understanding the 'ego-state' in which another relates to us, or we relate to others may provide the insight we need to deal with misunderstandings. (Transactional Analysis - Eric Bern)

Those who have come to view their existences as 'problem-saturated' may benefit from working with a counsellor to 're-author' their account of their life to better recognise the strengths they have, and the positive and helpful outcomes that they have achieved against a difficult background. Using Narrative Therapy techniques the counsellor can work directly with the client and their problems improving the client's self-worth and their problem handling skills. (Narrative Therapy - Michael White)

Some conditions, including trauma, jealousy and self-defeating behaviour, may respond well to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and to Rational Emotional Behaviour Therapy. Crooked or unhelpful modes of thinking and beliefs may lead to unsustainable expectations and demands of the self and others. By learning, or relearning, more helpful modes of thinking, and by reflecting on the results of past behaviour, clients are able to put in place changes that are beneficial to themselves and their relationships. (Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy- Albert Ellis. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy - Aaron Beck)

Many problematic situations arising in family, work or social settings can be traced to different people attaching different meanings to incidents in their lives. Often these can be traced to one person's background, their culture, upbringing or family expectations being equally valid but very different to those of another. Co-ordinated Management of Meaning provides a way of seeing and understanding 'difference' so as to help to see misunderstandings in a different, more helpful light. CMM also identifies 'strange loops', those behaviours where the person's behaviour intended to achieve improvement in their lives inevitably leads to present problems being maintained and repeated. (Co-ordinated Management of Meaning Barnett Pearce and Vernon Cronen)

Improving Standards

We believe that counsellors should undertake continuous profession development so as to ensure that we have the best tools at our disposal to help you and all our clients.

Openness

You will probably not really care what theory or techniques we employ so long as they help you find contentment and relief from the concerns that are restricting your life, but you are encouraged to ask at any time as to why we are pursuing a particular path in your session.

Healing starts with the relationship people have with their counsellor We believe it to be each person's right to be valued for their mind, body and spirit; entitled to respect, freedom, choice and happiness; free to grow, as an individual and to relate with others as equals.

Absolute Discretion Counselling Therapy - Our Philosophy for helping you.

Provided and developed by Dr Mobeus